Know that You are Known

Posted on by Curt Thompson

In one of his letters to the ancient church in the city of Corinth, the Apostle Paul wrote these words. “The man who loves God is known by God.” (1 Corinthians 8:3).  He didn’t say that this man knows God.  He said this guy is known by God.  And that got me thinking.  We place a lot of emphasis on knowing things.  We like to know facts about everything from sports to politics to art to current events.  And we especially like to know that we know things about God.  Or other people.  And we need to know certain things in order to navigate our day.  We need to know where our keys are.  We need to know that people still drive on the right side of the road.  We need to know that we take our medicine two times a day and not three or four.  But to be known? What does that really mean?  To be known is to be open, to be vulnerable, and to intend to grow in your capacity for emotional resilience.  It does not mean that you subject yourself to being a doormat, or repeatedly putting yourself in harm’s way.  And it requires that you allow this process to take place in the presence of another who is trustworthy with your deepest secrets.  But it is the only way to freedom.  The only way to becoming embodied goodness, faithfulness, kindness, and all of the rest of their cousin virtues.  Knowing is often about keeping others at a far enough distance in order not to be wounded.  Being known is about healing the wounds we already carry.  Which road will you choose?

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6 Responses to Know that You are Known

  1. I love where Curt is going with the concept of being known. I appreciate neuroscience and the Scriptures also talk over 800 times about the “heart”. Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else manage your heart with all diligence for out of it flow the issues of life.” How are we to understand being known and the brain (neuroscience) in light of the “heart”? Are they the same? How are they compatible?

    • Drew F. Hampshire says:

      Johnny-it sounds like you’ve also been reading Eldredge and his focus on the heart. If not, I’d recommend reading Wild at Heart-I hear a lot of echoes of Eldredge in Curt’s work (or vice-versa), and thats exciting!

  2. Jay says:

    Being known is vulnerable, yet the church community is intended to be a ‘safe place’. Are you familiar with any studies about worship/ music in connection with sanctification and being known by your church family?

    In Christ,

    • Jay says:

      Why I am asking is that music speaks to the soul in ways that other modalities cannot. I am interested in the connection between music, sanctification, the brain, and relationships.

  3. Cindi says:

    It struck me the other day, that when Eph says to “be imitators of God, as dearly loved children, living a life of love.”, we focus on the “doing” part – imitating, loving – and not the prerequisite to it – being dearly loved children. The only way to know I’m a dearly loved child is to actually pay attention to the fact that God is, in fact, knowing me – and more than that – He “gets” me, which means He not only knows me, He likes me…. that I am, in fact, a dearly loved child. The other things begin to fall into place after that.

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